Expert answer: "My 16 year old daughter scares me!"

At 16, the daughter of our mother behaves very strangely: she lies all the time, invents a life on the internet and is very violent with his siblings ... how best to react to initiate dialogue with it ? Our expert psychologist Didier Pleux, replied.

The question of the mother:

My 16 year old daughter, horribly complexed by his physique, has for some years bizarre behavior. Needless to mention that college already, she had very few friends and was the constant target of ridicule. She has since, imaginary friends, talking to herself, laughs every single day and night, believes their presence hard as iron. In his diary I read it dialogued with a boy on the Internet, they "were the Webcam" and sent sexually explicit photos. My daughter has run away, she was already scarified, moreover she sleeps with a scalpel. Moreover, my child is very violent and aggressive with his brothers and sisters, yesterday for a trivial quarrel story, she had tears in her eyes and said she could kill people just because the Madden.

Fan of a small starlet -and probably jealous of her - she began to do what she does, learn his scripts, use the same cosmetics, dress like her, and she has created a blog post where it all disadvantageous pictures of this star and where it criticism. I do not understand. I also found lots of forums on which it is registered, she invents a life where she has a lot of money, a house with swimming pool, a boyfriend (needless to mention that she has ever had ). She lies to her best friends, she tells them things that did not arrive, tell them of (fake) Vacation love, false funny anecdotes about his cousin ... Finally, she looks at porn movies. I am horrified and desperate. I do not know what to do with it as the dialogue is broken, it is camped on its positions and always wants to be right. Please help me !

 

 The answer Didier Pleux, psychologist:
A teenager suffering from body dysmorphic disorder (fear of being physically unattractive) is quite normal. Whether attracted by images of "star" in fashion and loves the virtual world of the Internet are also traditional behavior among teens. But do not let your daughter manage alone screens, it may take the next step: exchanging sex photos, etc.

It needs a framework and limits of parental authority that will regulate what can become an addiction to screens. I do not know your family situation but she has a father who can help you give a part of life? It already seems very intolerant of frustrations and I am not surprised that she is afraid to "take action" when the reality is binding or contrary to His good pleasure. I invite you to read my books on the child or the adult king king to recognize if it has this profile of "I do what I want when I want" and you will find some educational tips.

Anyway, it manifests many difficulties and it would be good she meets a specialist to talk things over. It does not go well with the real world. It needs a real coach who will unravel the reason for his avoidance with girlfriends and his fantasies with the virtual.