Your teenager enters its period of challenge and you feel helpless? Discover our tips to stay Zen in all circumstances.
Your sweet princess gave way to hysterical teen that you do not recognize? Your cute little boy looks like a zombie and opposes all? Do not panic, this is the crisis of adolescence. The tips of Francoise Rougeul, psychoanalyst and author of the book “Survival Guide for parents of teenagers go crazy”, published by the links that release
1- Set clear limits
Teens need their parents to respond to their share difficult moments but also to annoy. In the cause, they check that they still hold to it really. “In fact, he expects his parents a kind of acknowledgment of its excesses and provocations” summarizes the guide “Survival Guide for parents of teenagers go crazy.”
But your child he has as much right to go out late at night or to walk out of his room? It’s up to you to define the words and actions that you consider unacceptable. “Talk when it’s worth it, your teen will know well where is the red line.” it is written in the book.
2- relativize
In the same way that a baby explores the world around him by sucking his toys or touching anything it finds, a teenager needs to test his limits even play the daredevil and oppose systematically his parents. Families often worry for their children and pose banned accordingly: not smoking, not drinking, not to return after midnight … But these prohibitions, which are made to reassure parents, will probably violated, both the know in advance and get a result. “Let those around it or not, teens rub unavoidably risk and transgression, much like insects are attracted to light. The path of autonomy involves the examination, exploration and the practical resources of her body and mind. ” explain the authors of the book.
3. Give up being perfect
Manage the crisis of adolescence, it is also recognized that one has the right to be helpless, not having right conduct. Françoise Rougeul, psychoanalyst and family therapist, reassures: “To be perfect parents, it’s almost impossible to do this would even dramatic If you have a clear and preconceived image of what your role, then you’ll be too strict.. outside of reality. The parents are coping errors and in this case, better to admit your teen. One can very well say “listen, we do what we can, we do not understand everything but we try. ”
4- Accept to have the wrong role
Teenagers sometimes take pleasure in making fun of their parents, to highlight their flaws or their slightest mistakes. Difficult to accept comments from the person who told you there is still some time “you’re the most beautiful mother in the world”. Things have changed so much the better! Agree not be fashionable, not to share his opinions, it’s good for him! “Adolescents like to be conspicuous and easy criticism (…) You are not of his generation. He needs to hear it and feel it.” says the guide.
5- Remember that this is a passing fancy
For 80% of teenagers, the adolescent crisis goes well. Only 20% are in danger, according to Françoise Rougeul. Remember that this phase will be resolved quickly and not to imagine the worst. However if your child has several symptoms (sadness school failure + + withdrawal), it is important to consult professionals to prevent the situation from worsening.
Your sweet princess gave way to hysterical teen that you do not recognize? Your cute little boy looks like a zombie and opposes all? Do not panic, this is the crisis of adolescence. The tips of Francoise Rougeul, psychoanalyst and author of the book “Survival Guide for parents of teenagers go crazy”, published by the links that release
1- Set clear limits
Teens need their parents to respond to their share difficult moments but also to annoy. In the cause, they check that they still hold to it really. “In fact, he expects his parents a kind of acknowledgment of its excesses and provocations” summarizes the guide “Survival Guide for parents of teenagers go crazy.”
But your child he has as much right to go out late at night or to walk out of his room? It’s up to you to define the words and actions that you consider unacceptable. “Talk when it’s worth it, your teen will know well where is the red line.” it is written in the book.
2- relativize
In the same way that a baby explores the world around him by sucking his toys or touching anything it finds, a teenager needs to test his limits even play the daredevil and oppose systematically his parents. Families often worry for their children and pose banned accordingly: not smoking, not drinking, not to return after midnight … But these prohibitions, which are made to reassure parents, will probably violated, both the know in advance and get a result. “Let those around it or not, teens rub unavoidably risk and transgression, much like insects are attracted to light. The path of autonomy involves the examination, exploration and the practical resources of her body and mind. ” explain the authors of the book.
3. Give up being perfect
Manage the crisis of adolescence, it is also recognized that one has the right to be helpless, not having right conduct. Françoise Rougeul, psychoanalyst and family therapist, reassures: “To be perfect parents, it’s almost impossible to do this would even dramatic If you have a clear and preconceived image of what your role, then you’ll be too strict.. outside of reality. The parents are coping errors and in this case, better to admit your teen. One can very well say “listen, we do what we can, we do not understand everything but we try. ”
4- Accept to have the wrong role
Teenagers sometimes take pleasure in making fun of their parents, to highlight their flaws or their slightest mistakes. Difficult to accept comments from the person who told you there is still some time “you’re the most beautiful mother in the world”. Things have changed so much the better! Agree not be fashionable, not to share his opinions, it’s good for him! “Adolescents like to be conspicuous and easy criticism (…) You are not of his generation. He needs to hear it and feel it.” says the guide.
5- Remember that this is a passing fancy
For 80% of teenagers, the adolescent crisis goes well. Only 20% are in danger, according to Françoise Rougeul. Remember that this phase will be resolved quickly and not to imagine the worst. However if your child has several symptoms (sadness school failure + + withdrawal), it is important to consult professionals to prevent the situation from worsening.
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