The mother-daughter jealousy is a subject little discussed in society and still largely taboo. Yet, love to hate, rejection to the identification, he plays multiple feelings in this relationship so special, and much less smooth as we would like to believe. The explanations with clinical psychology professor Yves Morhain.
The duality of mother / lover
jealous mother-daughter Few mothers dare confide that they are jealous of their daughter. The formula shocking because one always hears about a mother's love, and rarely these disturbing reports. Yet, as evidenced Yves Morhain, the thing is much more common than we think. Hypersexualisation between girls and eternal youth seeking women more mature, modern society exacerbates ancestral conflicts that have always been going on between mothers and daughters.
A rivalry that explodes when the seedlings enter adolescence and femininity flourishes. "It is unbearable for these mothers to admit their jealousy. Accept view, it would recognize that they refuse part of their maternal role" said psychologist. For it is there that the whole story is played according to our expert: becoming a woman is to invest both her role as mother and lover. However, some prefer to sleep in their native function
Destructive behavior Girl
Over-invest any of these roles still poses a challenge to the girl, who can become a woman in identifying or rejecting the model of his own mother. In everyday life, the mother-daughter jealousy is characterized for example by physically abusive about the teenager. This can be devastating in the girl already disturbed by her changing body and can lead to self-destructive behavior, such as anorexia or self-harm.
The jealous mother can also systematically belittle her daughter, prevent him from seeing his friends. This rivalry also operates in the outfits, where "the more one knows who is the mother and daughter" illustrates Yves Morhain. "I also had the case of a mother who had stung her daughter's boyfriend of 18 years. This caused a lot of violence," explains the analyst.
Point mother without a father
And the father in all this? Well, he plays a major role. Several scenarios are possible: an absent father, a mother abandoned or otherwise extremely accomplice father with his daughter. In all cases, "the problem is that the triptych does not. Complicity must be primarily between father and mother. The girl should find in his father a man who wants his wife, it is essential its construction, "says Yves Morhain.
A pattern that repeats
Several factors explain this heightened rivalry. Early pregnancy, fear of aging, but also the repetition of a pattern. "The mother herself had a special relationship with her own mother, it is also in the transgenerational. In a way, it is possible that identical replays what she suffered when she was violent conflict with his mother, or rejected "the psychoanalyst analyzes. Many of these women fear becoming in turn mother, including birth to a daughter.
And the other the rest of the interview ....
The duality of mother / lover
jealous mother-daughter Few mothers dare confide that they are jealous of their daughter. The formula shocking because one always hears about a mother's love, and rarely these disturbing reports. Yet, as evidenced Yves Morhain, the thing is much more common than we think. Hypersexualisation between girls and eternal youth seeking women more mature, modern society exacerbates ancestral conflicts that have always been going on between mothers and daughters.
A rivalry that explodes when the seedlings enter adolescence and femininity flourishes. "It is unbearable for these mothers to admit their jealousy. Accept view, it would recognize that they refuse part of their maternal role" said psychologist. For it is there that the whole story is played according to our expert: becoming a woman is to invest both her role as mother and lover. However, some prefer to sleep in their native function
Destructive behavior Girl
Over-invest any of these roles still poses a challenge to the girl, who can become a woman in identifying or rejecting the model of his own mother. In everyday life, the mother-daughter jealousy is characterized for example by physically abusive about the teenager. This can be devastating in the girl already disturbed by her changing body and can lead to self-destructive behavior, such as anorexia or self-harm.
The jealous mother can also systematically belittle her daughter, prevent him from seeing his friends. This rivalry also operates in the outfits, where "the more one knows who is the mother and daughter" illustrates Yves Morhain. "I also had the case of a mother who had stung her daughter's boyfriend of 18 years. This caused a lot of violence," explains the analyst.
Point mother without a father
And the father in all this? Well, he plays a major role. Several scenarios are possible: an absent father, a mother abandoned or otherwise extremely accomplice father with his daughter. In all cases, "the problem is that the triptych does not. Complicity must be primarily between father and mother. The girl should find in his father a man who wants his wife, it is essential its construction, "says Yves Morhain.
A pattern that repeats
Several factors explain this heightened rivalry. Early pregnancy, fear of aging, but also the repetition of a pattern. "The mother herself had a special relationship with her own mother, it is also in the transgenerational. In a way, it is possible that identical replays what she suffered when she was violent conflict with his mother, or rejected "the psychoanalyst analyzes. Many of these women fear becoming in turn mother, including birth to a daughter.
And the other the rest of the interview ....
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